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Him: Topic #28: Bestiality

Woof, woof.

I’ll come right out and say it, bestiality isn’t my favorite sexual fetish/philia. I am a very sex positive person, I mean I write a blog about sex and sexuality…so I kind of have to be right? Even so, there have been a few times in the last couple years where video’s have come along that really disturb me and put me off my game. One such video was the “Mr. Hands” Video, where the man perforated his colon via the penis of a very large stallion. That video bothered me to my core for a couple of reasons.

The first being that the man died, which is just horrible. The second reason that video bothered me so much was how depraved, and I don’t use this word lightly, the whole thing was. A man was so controlled by his sexual desires that he let himself be sodomized by a horse…which led to his death. If a sexual fetish leads to, or can lead to, someones death I have a major issue with that fetish. I feel the same way about Autoerotic asphyxiation, if it cannot be done safely, then it shouldn’t be done at all.

There is an entirely different aspect to this whole thing to be taken into consideration as well, what about the animals? I mean, there are people that have sex with their dogs, and I read an article about a man that tried to sleep with a cat, only to throw it out of a seventh story window when that didn’t work out so well. This is a hard one for me because with the way our society treats animals, I don’t see how having sex with them should be a big deal. We raise cattle to be slaughtered without asking for their consent. We test chemicals and other products on them without asking if they might not like that. So really, I have to wonder, how is not asking for an animal’s consent any different?

I myself am not really into the idea of fucking an animal, that just doesn’t do much for me personally. I know people who have slept with animals, and they are generally normal, decent folks. Does that mean I think that they should be doing it all the time or hurting the animals they sleep with or something? No. Do I want to hear about it every time they fuck their dog or horse or something? Of course not. Do I think it is my place to tell them that what they are doing is sick and wrong? How could I when there are people that say my own sexuality is ‘sick and wrong’?

At the end of the day, if nobody gets hurt, I guess I don’t really have a problem with animals and people having sex. When it starts getting dangerous though is when I start getting standoffish on the topic. I don’t have any political or emotional investment in this weeks topic, but I do think that people should be allowed to express themselves sexually however the fuck they want. I don’t know, this is a hard one. I’m curious to know what the readers think, Leave a comment below or email me at himandhersexblog@gmail.com


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Topic #26: Animal Roleplay

Animal roleplay may be either a non-sexual or an erotic sexual role-play (when it may also be called petplayponyplayponyismkittenplay, or pup-play). In its erotic sexual role-play form, one or more of the participants takes on the role of a real or imaginary animal in character, including appropriate mannerisms and behavior, and sometimes a partner will act as another animal, or, in a sexual context, may take the role of rider, trainer, or caretaker (or even breeding partner).

The principal theme of animal roleplay is usually the voluntary transformation of a human being to animal status, and focus on the altered mind-space created. The most common examples are probably canids (pupdogwolf), felines (catkittenlion) or equines (ponyhorse). Animal roleplay is also used in a BDSM context, where a person may be humiliated by being treated as an animal.

In psychodrama, animal roleplay may be used for a person to explore their personality, as a form of role reversal.

The origins of animal roleplay and petplay are probably various and diverse, again depending upon the participants involved. However, its origins are certainly influenced by costumingfictionmyth and legend, roleplay and psychodrama in their various aspects. Some of the earliest published images of animal play (especially pony play) are to be found in the work of John Willie, primarily in BIZARRE magazine published from 1948 to 1959. The first commercial manifestation of this fetish was created by Simon Benson the founder of the Petgirls website.

Cultural and ritual use

Non-sexual animal roleplay, or therianthropy, was a common and integral part of ritual in many tribal cultures both in recent and likely prehistoric times, where a member (or members) of the tribe would take the role physically and often spiritually, of an animal that was either revered, or hunted. Examples of the former include many of the American Indian tribes and Arctic native peoples, examples of the latter are evidenced by cave paintings. In 1911 Julia Tuell photographed the last Animal Dance (“Massaum“) performed by the Northern Cheyenne of Montana.

It is also sometimes used in education, especially physical education, as an enjoyable way to encourage people to exercise the body in unusual ways, by mimicking various animals.

Erotic use

Like much of erotic play and roleplay, animal roleplay in an erotic or relational context is entirely defined by the people involved and by their mood and interests at the time of play. It ranges from the simple imitation of a vocal whinnying of a horse to the barking, panting or playful nudging of a puppy, or playful behaviour of a kitten, to crawling around on all fours and being fed, or petted, by hand. (In the latter instance, its motives may be similar to those of ageplay, i.e. taking on a role that one feels spiritually appropriate or which allows for nurturing, and a change from usual roles in everyday life). To the greater extremes of dressing up as a pony in modified horse tack, masks, prosthetics and temporary bondage based body modification (such as binding the forearms to the upperarms and/or the calves to the thighs).

Public participation in human animal roleplay is varied. A couple could inconspicuously role-play a silly but loving pet play scene in public, but it would look like one partner is merely stroking the other’s neck innocently to the casual observer. In the case of many convention-going furries and some BDSM fetishists, one partner may wear a dog collar with a leash attached.

The reasons for playing such a character or animal can vary as much as the actual physical manifestations and intensity of the play. Some people enjoy being able to “cut loose” into a different, or more dynamic personality (e.g., Were-creatures or Catgirls; see other variations). In some cases, pet play is seen as a loving, quiet cuddling time where there is no need for verbalizations and the simple act of stroking, rubbing and holding the other partner is satisfying or reassuring in and of itself for those involved. For others, there may be a spiritual side to it. Some feel closer to their animal totem, while others may identify with something akin to a deeper side or part of their own psyche (see: Therianthropy). For still others, there is the experience of power exchange setup in a context or structure which they can accept. Clearly, again, it depends on the people involved and what they bring to it or take from it.

Additionally, some cases could be considered a type of animal transformation fantasy. They can have strong elements of exhibitionism, be totally enjoyed in the privacy of the home, or lie somewhere between either boundary. While not widespread, erotic human-animal roleplay is still enjoyed by a sizable number of people. However, it is still primarily identified with BDSM practice, or as being associated with furry or other alternative lifestyle activities.

For some participants, it has no connection whatsoever with bestiality, which is controversial and would usually be considered edgeplay in BDSM circles.

Autozoophilia is sexual arousal that depends on acting out or imagining one’s self as an animal. Paraphilic interests that involve being in another form have been referred to asErotic Target Location Errors (ETLEs), and autozoophilia would represent an autoerotic form of zoophilia.

Other considerations

It should be pointed out that each type of play can focus on a certain “strength” of an animal character. Pony play often involves the practice and training that a horse owner or trainerwould put their horse through to learn how to walk, canter, etc., as modified for human limbs. Puppy play often can involve BDSM related discipline. Cow Play often involves fantasies of lactation and impregnation. The usual limits of safe, sane and consensual apply to roleplay as much as any other activity between humans who accept and respect their partner’s interests and limits. For most, this does not include bestiality.

Note: Just because one partner is playing the “pet” does not necessarily make them the passive or submissive play partner in the scene. For example, if the form of pet play is for the meek and timid wife to “transform” into a werewolf or mischievous anime catgirl, she may take the upper hand and dominate the partner. Again, how the play is interpreted is entirely up to the people involved.

Use in BDSM

Some people believe that they have certain animal ‘instincts’ and through animal roleplay can let them out. This is especially true in the BDSM communities, where some people ‘live’ as their chosen animal 24/7. This type of mentality goes beyond roleplay and becomes a full lifestyle for the parties involved. There are also ‘hybrids’. These are humans who live part-time as one type of animal, and part-time as another. This is usually determined by the situation.

There seems to be a growing trend among the BDSM scene in animal roleplay, especially pup and kitten play. Playing the role of a pup or kitten is one of giving over complete control over to another, while the ‘Master or Handler’ expects only unconditional love and obedience from his/her animal.

BDSM Pony Play

Pony-play is sometimes referred to as “The Aristotelian Perversion,” in reference to legend that Aristotle had a penchant for being ridden like a horse.

Ponies (people involved in pony-play) generally divide themselves to three groups although some will participate in two or perhaps all three:

  • Cart ponies: ponies who pull a sulky with their owner.
  • Riding ponies: ponies who are ridden, either on all fours or on two legs, with the “rider” on the shoulders of the “pony” (also known as Shoulder riding). Note that a human back is generally not strong enough to take the weight of another adult without risk of injury, so four-legged “riding” is generally symbolic, with the “rider” taking most of their weight on their own legs.
  • Show ponies: ponies who show off their dressage skills and often wear elaborate harnessess, plumes and so on.

A documentary film Pony Passion was produced by British pony play club De Ferre in 2003 showing their club’s activities and Born in a Barn, a 2005 documentary film, depicted the lives of several pony-play enthusiasts.

BDSM Puppy Play

Puppy play or dog play is where at least one of the participants acts out canine mannerisms and behaviors, it is sometimes associated with leather culture. The dominant role is taken by a “Handler”, “Trainer”, “Master”, or in the case of someone who still identifies as canine, an “alpha”. The submissive may be considered a “pup” or a “dog”. Unlike other forms of animal roleplay, it is not uncommon for two or more pups to play together as equals, fight for dominance, or play where one is clearly the “alpha”. Puppy play is often about being playful, mischievous, and instinctive. In relation to other BDSM play, a “puppy” who is “unowned” or “uncollared” can be referred to as a “stray”. Other elements rooted in BDSM play involve bondage and restriction with collars, leashes, cages, and hoods, the submissive’s hands are often covered in mitts, both sexual and non-sexual services are requested, and “training” may take place in order to teach commands. The submissive may be asked to bark, kiss/lick the dominant’s foot/shoe, and eat like a dog.

BDSM Kitten Play

In kitten-play the person assumes the less serious role of a pet that keeps some independence and – as part of the fantasy – might retaliate against the partner trying to tame him or her.

Other variations

Some consider costume play, or cosplayanime catgirls to be a form or look of pet play as well, because these are generally young female characters that have the combined aspects of females and cats (generally a human girl with cat ears, a tail, fangs and a propensity for catlike affection or curiosity). Examples would be Cat Girl Nuku Nuku, Pink from Dragon Pink and others. Some superheroesheroines andvillains could also be classified as related to pet play, such as DC Comics‘s WildcatCatwoman and VixenMarvel‘s TigraMan-Wolf andBlack Cat, or even Nastassja Kinski‘s Irena Gallier in the 1982 film Cat People (a remake of the 1942 Simone Simon film), and Miss Kitty from the Brendan Fraser movie Monkeybone. All involve animal qualities taken on by a human. Some would even count the enactment or spiritual belief in therianthropy (werewolveswerecats, etc.) as falling under human animal roleplay or transformation play as well.

One group, the LA Ponies and Critters Club, takes the community idea of BDSM animal roleplay further by staging a mock foxhunt in local forested areas. These events bring together ponyplayers, puppyplayers and their respective humans for a cooperative, community bonding activity. One of the canine players volunteers to be the “fox” and marks a trail in the forest. The other puppyplayers form the pack of “hounds” that search out the fox and bark/howl to bring the ponyplayers and their “riders” to capture the “fox”.