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Him: Topic #25: Cuck(h)olding

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Cuckolding is one of those topics that I’ve wanted to do since day one of this blog, but never really got around to actually having it be a topic. That all changed when Her decided on this weeks topic, and I did a tripple backflip. Alright, I’ll admit, that was a lie…I couldn’t do a tripple back flip if my life depended on it.

So my strategy for my post this week is to talk about some of the history and imagery associated with the term, and why I love it so much, then delve into my personal experiences with Cuckolding. I should warn you now readers, this very well might get a little…explicit. One last note before I really begin, as I seem to say often when talking about fetishes and kinks: Always talk, boldly and with no shyness, to your partner about what turns you on and gets you off. Talk to them about what scares you and what you don’t like to do or can’t do. Be open and honest and hold nothing back because this is not only about what gets you off, it’s also about your relationship as a whole. If you can’t be frank and unembarrassed with the person you’re going to fuck, then you shouldn’t be fucking that person.

Lets talk about a cuckolds horns for a little bit shall we? When I first learned about cuckolds having horns I was confused and, to be honest, had no idea what the hell was going on. The meaning behind the horns, apparently, can be traced back to Rome. In roman society, when a soldier would come home from battle he would be given bronze horns as a sign of honor and esteem. Over time though, the horns took on another meaning altogether. The adage associated with the horns was simple, it was never a good idea to leave a roman wife alone for too long. The cuckold horns came to represent a failure in the bedroom, in essence, they were a direct attack on a mans masculinity! References to cuckolding can be found all over the place in english literature, most notably in the works of Shakespeare who loved to use suspected cuckolding as a plot device.

Alight, history lesson over. Take a few breaths, slap yourself around a little, time for the fun stuff.

I’ve never been cuckolded, the thought really holds no pleasure or arousal for me at all. That being said however, I have been the other man in a cuckolded relationship. Quite recently I was asked if I would like to be the other man in yet another cuckolded relationship: Hasn’t happened yet…but something tells me it will eventually. That particular situation has some very interesting dynamics of its own, but that is for a later post.

From my personal experience there are a few ways that cuckolding can work, the basic premise is fairly straightforward. You have two individuals in a committed relationship, one of them gets to, with the permission of their partner, have sex with other men. In male-female relationships the woman is usually given most or all of the power. This, like most things we talk about on this blog, isn’t always the case of course.

The last time I was involved with a cuckolded couple, it was two men and at the time I didn’t know they were 1. in a relationship, and 2. were cuckolded. I was sleeping, fairly regularly, with one of the men and, oddly enough, it wasn’t until very recently that I found out that it was a cuckolded situation. Some people might be upset by something like that, being used or whatnot, me personally…I didn’t mind. I’ve sense spoken to both of them together and they are happy as can be. They both know the rules and follow them, as defined by their relationship.

So, apparently how it would work was as follows, I would fuck the one guy, and he would go home and tell his boyfriend all about it while his boyfriend fucked him. The cuckolded man in the relationship said to me, when I asked about it, “Hearing all of the hot, sexy things you did with him got me off like nothing else. I fuck him harder, longer, and better when being told that another man has had him. I get this need to reclaim what’s mine. You should try it sometime, you might be surprised.”

The other way it can work, so I’ve been told by others in cuckolded relationships, is that the cuckolded man will be in the room, watching their partner get fucked by someone else. This can take many different forms, most of them involving the cuckolded man being ultra submissive.

The thing that I think I would have the most trouble with is the idea of being submissive. I like being submissive sometimes in BDSM play, but in something like this…I don’t know that I could do it. I have a fairly big ego and the thought of being submissive to another man as he fucks my partner is unfathomable. Polyamory doesn’t bother me in the least, being submissive to another person who is fucking my partner though? No thanks.

As always, if you have questions or comments feel free to tell me below or shoot an email our way at himandhersexblog@gmail.com



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  1. Pingback: Him: Topic #25: Cuck(h)olding « Threesomes and variations

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